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Stalled…

Life's a beach

“You can’t leave footprints in the sands of time if your sitting on your butt. And who wants to leave butt prints in the sands of time?”

- Bob Moawad

I’m not in the best place, attitude-wise today. I feel like a lot of things that have been bothering me came to a head this weekend. Here’s a few of the them:

1) Since Thanksgiving, I’ve been hibernating. What I mean by this is that I haven’t been consistently running or working out and I’ve been shoveling pretty much whatever I can get my hands on into my face. (Lack of self control, much?)

2) Last weekend, I made the decision to run a half marathon without training and, unsurprisingly, hurt myself. (Shoulda known better!)

3) This weekend, I chose to spend nearly the whole two days playing a video game. (Yes, being a sneaky, tough, level 37 knight is cool – but I’ll never get that time back!)

There are quite a few more, but I won’t bore you with them. Needless to say, my internal monologue hasn’t been good, which has put me into a bit of a downward spiral. So, to get myself turned around again, I’m going to actually put to use a tool I found a little while ago.

One of my favorite authors is Seth Godin. He’s a brilliant marketer, business philosopher, and serial innovator. Recently he compiled Zig Ziglar‘s methodology on goal achievement in a workbook that asks you to distill your desires down to four goals and track your efforts daily to achieve them. Called “Pick Four”, it can be found here.

By the next post, I’m committing to picking my goals and starting to track my daily progress.

What tools/tips have you successfully used to turn around a rough patch?

  • Sorry to hear you’ve hit a rough patch but it happens to the best of us. Try to remember how it felt when you were optimistic about all of the things you have planned for this year. No one begrudges anyone some down time but you have to remember how it felt when you were in the throes of change and how it positively affected you even when you were scared.

    When I’m feeling that downward spiral (hello last night’s breakdown), I sometimes just have to get out the emotions (a good cry, scream, punch a weight bag, etc) and then take a breath and think of what I want to accomplish and get back on track whether it’s making a to do list so I can phyically see it in front of me to talking to a friend (you’ve got my number right?) to listen to the babble and then help refocus.

    We can all lose enthusiasm for our goals but the easiest way to get it back is to remember that you WERE doing it and you were heading toward something amazing that you never thought even a year ago you could accomplish and others ARE interested.

    I’m here if you need me!

  • I can’t overstate how much you’re support means to me, Mrs. You rock!!!

    jeff

    February 12, 2012

  • Sorry to hear you’re kinda in a funk, Jeff. But I know you, and I know it won’t last for long! Just remember…baby steps. Focus on the small things. One step at a time. And something that always helps me is listening to “Three Little Birds” by always-inspiring Bob Marley on repeat. “Don’t worry…about a thing…because every little thing…is gonna be alright!” :) Hugs!

    Jessie

    February 6, 2012

  • Thanks so much, Jess!

    jeff

    February 12, 2012

  • I think the most important thing is that you are recognizing these things now instead of much later on when it’s typically past the point of being something you can more readily do something about. If there is one thing I’ve learned in my nearly 40 years (ugh, the thought of that still bugs me) it’s that beating yourself up about wasting time on things is really just wasting more time.

    You’re recognizing a trend you dislike and taking the steps to turn the ship around and that is what life is all about. Having downtime is something we all need from time to time and while it may not always seem to directly contribute to our goals and future dreams it still plays an important part in finding some balance and you can let yourself off the hook for letting that happen. It’s when a person finds themselves spending every waking hour trying to be that level 13 Sith lord or whatever game they might be playing that there is a real problem.

    I think sometimes we need to embrace our flaws too. We can still change them but maybe it’s like keeping your friends close ( the things we like about ourselves) and your enemies closer by embracing the things we see as flaws and learning to appreciate and perhaps understand them better. Then we can love ourselves more or decide what really needs to go.

    Okay too much philosophy for one day. If you haven’t already, go check out OK Go’s Chevy Sonic commercial. Yeah, maybe another waste of time but an inspiring one at least!

    The Mr

    February 6, 2012

  • Thanks Mr. Whenever I get in these funks, I feel like it’s the end of the world. I appreciate the advice and philosophy – getting deep helps shakes off the blues!

    jeff

    February 12, 2012

  • We all have those F-it days. And they are great. But as long as they are just days, its all good. You know what you need to do, you know how to do it, just start doing. Don’t want to go for a walk today? Just go do it anyway to prove how much you really did want to do it. Before you know it your right back on track and a little set back isn’t a major life event.
    Go! Do!

    cheezchik32

    February 6, 2012

  • Love it cheezchik32! “Go! Do!” So simple, but so true.

    jeff

    February 12, 2012

  • I’m sorry you’re in a bit of a funk, Jeff. I’m glad to hear that you’re giving it only as much importance as it deserves. I think you’ve got a solid plan.

    The worst thing I do when I’m on a downward spiral is isolate myself physically and emotionally.

    Not to be mistaken for advice, and only because you asked, the best thing I do is anything that will prevent that… a good movie or book that stirs my passion about life, and/or people (books, movies) with whom I can LAUGH… the more the better. Physical activity… even short walks… and SINGING pull me into the centre of who I am, and it becomes much harder to fade away.

    It may seem counter-intuitive but if, instead of tackling the ‘issue’ or my avoidance head on, I take some time to build myself back up and raise my energy level, tackling the concerns and issues at hand (read: everything I’m avoiding or that which feels overwhelming) everything falls back into place more quickly. The harder I push myself to ‘suck it up’, the more I freeze up and continue to spiral down.

    That’s my story and I’m sticking to it… for what it’s worth, LOL!

    I pray for you better days ahead!

    ramona

    February 7, 2012

  • Thank you Ramona! I do the same thing, cut myself off from the outside world. Some days the weakness creeps in, but I know that I’ll be ok. Better than ok, even. With incredible supporters like yourself, I can’t help but succeed :)

    jeff

    February 12, 2012

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